Internet porn... and how to enhance your sex life.

A new author has to make a good impression. So here I am. Talking about porn.

Ya. Let's go there.

But first, a disclaimer. Please don't think this particularly applies to me, that I'm in a loveless relationship or that I'm inherently against porn or masturbation. I'm not. What I am against is choosing a lifeless option by oneself over a real person and intimacy.

You know how all these little girls are going on diets? Trying to starve themselves or over exercise at 12 years old because they feel fat? It's because girls are shown images, from day one, of skinny, perfectly airbrushed, totally natural photoshopped bodies. This affects our self worth, sadly, and when you're constantly surrounded by all these women who are “better” than you, it really fucks with your head.

When we get to our teens, we enter an entirely new world where is contorted not only physical beauty, but sexuality as well. All of a sudden, we're not only competing with the Cosmo cover girl, but 90% of the internet. So how do these girls get the guy? By being slutty, easy, asking nothing in return and giving the guy whatever... or whoever... he wants. So what message does that send a young woman? “The way to a guy's heart is by giving whatever he wants, with no expectations”.

Ever go downtown on a busy night? Skirts nowadays are so short, you can literally see the bottom of girls' butts. That is NOT sexy! I love a good looking woman, trust me I do, but what ever happened to leaving stuff to the imagination? GIRLS. Get this through your heads : guys don't fall in love with (nor probably date) the slut. People are lazy, in general, so why would a guy go out of his to land a nice girl when his basic want, sex, can be plucked out of a club with little to no effort?

We cry sexism and inequality while putting on the makeup and taking off the clothes. Those women who are giving themselves away for a smile and a drink are fighting their own cause. They're fighting our own cause. For the love of God, just... stop. Let guys work to get you, girls. Like Mark Gungor (“Laugh Your Way to a BetterMarriage”) says; “You gots to climb up the palm tree to get to the coconuts!”

Want a better sex life, guys? (yes, I'm generalizing, I know. If this doesn't apply to you, don't take offence). Want your girl to do go bananas on you? It's actually pretty simple. Focus on her. Put the porn away, focus your energy on her... Make her feel sexy and desirable and she will blow your mind. Nothing says to a girl “You're ok, whatever, I guess” like showing her you'd rather touch yourself than feel her touch.

I know SO many women in long relationships or married... And the ones who have a happier, healthier sex life are the ones who's sex lives are with each other; not the internet. I'm not saying this is the ultimate cure, but trust me guys. A browser history full of 'hidden' porn is very damaging to a woman. I don't care if she watches it with you. I don't care if she watches it alone. I know there are probably girls out there who genuinely don't care... But chances are? She does. She might not tell you she does, she might tell you I'm crazy for typing this, but chances are; she cares.

The message “you're usually good enough, but some times I just wanna watch other women do stuff you won't do” is hurtful and demeaning. And if you're the girl porn watcher, then you might want to keep an eye open to how this affects him. I'm 100% confident this can go both ways.

If you think I'm crazy, check out Mark Gungor's “#1 Key toIncredible Sex”. I'm not making this stuff up. I'm not an angry wife. I'm just fed up with friends getting their hearts broken because they feel inadequate, worthless and unimportant.

Respect yourselves. Respect each other.