New topic; war wounds! Or, as some friends call them, battle scars. They are what they sound like; marks that one gets after having sex. (I won't even get into the conversation about how inappropriate these terms are.)
Now, not everyone likes having marks the day after. Some do. I remember one person describing her day at work, and how she was reaching up to a shelf, felt a twinge, and just fist pumped "YES". It was good sex. She was happy to have reminders. Hell, I would be too.
Some are not into rough stuff, so any bruises or bite marks are normally negotiated before sex begins. Or at least I hope so. (You people are getting consent and everything worked out beforehand, right?)
But sometimes things happen during sex that you are surprised to see after.
A friend of mine went to lock his door at night, and had left his shirt off. Apparently this exposed a ton of fresh scratches to his father walking behind him. Oops? Luckily his father just shook his head and walked away. (His mother, however, did not have a similiar reaction at the massive hickies on his neck. Well done.)
It's common to accidentally leave marks behind, such as scratches and hickies, and then happen upon them the next day. I'd like to hope your sex is passionate! However, if you're leaving them on purpose, like you're marking your territory, you might want to sit down with your sex partner and talk about it.
Heads up though. Hickies or scratches can feel great to give and receive. It's when you feel like you need to hide them that there's a problem.
Play nicely.
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